Sex Therapy
Erotic intimacy should feel liberating + accessible.
Eroticism is adult play: ideally it is expansive, vibrant, joyful, and stress-free. Living in a sex-shaming society damages our ability to have a loving, easy relationship to our erotic, sensual, and sexual identities. That damage can lead to conflict and disconnection with ourselves and our intimate others.
Have you found yourself struggling to be in your body during sexual intimacy? Maybe the idea of sex and communicating around it makes you feel anxious! Perhaps there are aspects of your sexual experience that are difficult such as painful sex, or sexual functioning issues like erectile dysfunction or premature ejaculation? Is there just a general sense of unease or lack of fulfillment in your relationship to sex? As a trained sex therapist, I’ll help you heal the pain of a burdened relationship to sexuality so you can cultivate a satisfying and nourishing erotic life for the long term.
My Approach
I use a bio-psycho-social model to understand the physical, sexual, social, and relational elements of your struggle. We’ll dive deep to understand the core parts of your sexual/erotic/gender dilemmas and incorporate somatic, emotion, and behavioral exercises and tools to support moving you as an individual or couple into expansive, fulfilling, and easeful experiences within your erotic connections to yourself and intimate others. Eroticism is a central slice of our lives and we all deserve curiosity, care, and support to invite a flourishing erotic connection within ourselves that allows joy to flow.
What to Expect
If you’re seeking therapy as a relationship system, we’ll all meet together so I can get to know you, the history of your relationship, and the future you envision. Then I’ll meet with each of you individually to better understand how you came to be a relational and sexual adult. Afterward, we’ll all come back together and discuss our process moving forward. If you’re coming in individually, we’ll spend the first few sessions engaged in a similarly thorough assessment process. We’ll explore identified themes and collaborate on a treatment roadmap that places you as the explorer and myself as the guide.
Why People Seek Sex Therapy
Eroticism and sexuality is an often complex and tangled experience. People seek out sex therapy because of:
Mismatched desire—you have different wants/needs around frequency of your sexual intimacy
It’s emotional—you struggle with anxiety, shame, fear + feel overwhelmed when it comes to sex
Mind-body disconnection—you aren’t present during erotic encounters because you’re stuck in your head
Difficulty reaching orgasm—you never or almost never experience an orgasm during partnered or solo sex
Performance anxiety—you find yourself wondering if the other person is into it/judging you/etc.
Novelty—you want to explore erotic themes, kink, fantasies, + other exciting types of intimacy
Communication—you want to learn how to communicate openly about sexual preferences, boundaries, etc.
Pain—you experience pain or fear experiencing pain when you attempt any kind of penetration
Sexual trauma—you’ve had your boundaries violated + struggle to feel present + safe during intimacy
You + your penis aren’t on the same page—you experience erectile difficulties, premature or delayed ejaculation
… and more!