Couples Therapy
Deep and affirming intimacy is within reach.
Has there been a significant event that has led to a feeling of rupture and relationship insecurity? Maybe you’ve drifted apart and miss that feeling of closeness and joy that you felt so energized by in the beginning? Or, life together has felt more effortful: trying—and failing—not to fight; struggling to articulate your feelings and desires openly because of lack of trust.
Our relational health is a necessary ingredient in our overall life satisfaction. Overtime, our relationships can take hits that we struggle to overcome on our own. Most of us long for our intimate relationships to be a safe haven from the stress, overwhelm, and chaos of our lives. When that isn’t the case, it can lead us to feel lost, uneasy, and wondering how to find our way back to a feeling of security. Relationship therapy can support you to move out of cycles of mistrust, conflict, and sexual frustration.
My Approach
I integrate interpersonal neurobiology and emotion-focused therapy to facilitate you as a couple developing clarity on the root aspects of your conflicts, hurts, and struggle to experience soothing, secure, and meaningful connection. We’ll work through challenges in a compassionate environment that will support you in exploring your concerns, and help you own your part in the change process. We’ll identify the patterns you’ve unconsciously been stuck in and work to develop new patterns that encourage a vibrant and emotionally connected life together.
What to Expect
We’ll all meet so I can get to know you, the history of your relationship, and the future you envision. Then I’ll meet with each of you to better understand how you came to be a relational and sexual adult. Afterward, we’ll come back together and discuss our process moving forward. We’ll begin with unearthing and making “live” the parts of us that have felt gripped in tension and disconnection. With awareness, we’ll work together to invite new strategies and moves that support a nourishing and steady relationship.
Why People Seek Couples Therapy
While connection struggles are unique to each relationship system, here are some common themes I see:
Difficulty staying calm when in conflict—someone ends up yelling or walking away
Trouble engaging in conflict—you can’t remember the last time you fought
Recovering from relationship agreement violations such as infidelity or boundary crossing
Desire to increase the feeling of being connected + seen by each other
Navigating different expectations for the relationship such as time spent together, finances, etc.
Overwhelmed with the ‘business’ of adulthood + struggling to center your relational wants/desires
Sexual concerns—struggles with mismatched desire, exploring ethical non-monogamy, or dysfunction like pain, premature ejaculation, etc.
… and more!